You can complain because roses have thorns or you can rejoice because thorns have roses. ~Ziggy
Studies have shown that a good majority of us complain once each minute during a conversation. Why do we engage in this behavior so frequently?
Because it feels good. But just because it feels good doesn’t mean it is good for us.
In fact, research shows that complaining is damaging to our health.
Any time we repeat a behavior, it becomes easier and easier. This is true of things that are good for us as well as bad. Just as paths in a meadow that are traveled frequently become more defined, so do the cognitive pathways that we exercise become more enduring. When we continually complain, our brain rewires itself by building neurological information bridges. As we complain more and more, these bridges become more distinct, resulting in this negative pattern developing into a default behavior. Read more →