Living In Gratitude: 30 Habits to Cultivate Happiness

It is an understatement to say that 2020 has been a challenge. We are experiencing unprecedented uncertainty and so much of life feels out of our control.

Yet there are still ways to seek happiness even while we collectively experience the grief, stress, fear, and anxiety this year has wrought.

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Living In Gratitude: Living in Limbo

“Let go. You may not know what comes next but know that whatever it is…you will be okay.” -Unknown

Limbo is uncomfortable. It is that awkward state of “in between,” the place set smack in the middle of where you are and where you will be.

Whatever the reason for it, limbo finds all of us at various times in life. This in between state of being, especially if it lingers, can foster frustration, uncertainty, worry, stress, anxiety, fear, and a lack of fulfillment.

From limbo often sprout thoughts of, “What’s the point?” and “Why bother?” We put our life on hold in anticipation of the impending change whose occurrence and timeframe are ethereal.

When we are in limbo, opportunities go unclaimed.

Relationships go undiscovered or sometimes unnurtured.

Adventure and happiness may slip by.

All in anticipation of waiting for that something to happen “soon.”

We’ve all been there. And it can be hard to let go and know that whatever happens, we will be okay.

Although limbo is something most of us will face in life, that doesn’t mean it has to consume us. We can make a conscious decision to stop being fearful of what we can’t control. We can stop listening to that niggling negative voice in our head, stop feeding our worry, halt conjuring up worst case scenarios that will most likely never come true.

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Living In Gratitude: When Life Isn’t Fair

We have no right to ask, when sorrow comes, ‘Why did this happen to me?’ unless we ask the same question for every joy that comes our way. ~ Philip S. Bernstein

Many of us live with the idea that life needs to be fair. When something isn’t fair, we experience numerous, negative reactions including petulance, outrage, hurt, despair, anxiety, and fear.

When our sense of fairness isn’t met, we often lash out at others or at ourselves. But where does this sense of entitlement come from, the idea that we must always be treated fairly?

There are many things in life, the world and history that aren’t fair. Terrible things happen to good and innocent people and good things happen to misguided and cruel people. Read more

Living In Gratitude: Leave Anger & Bitterness Behind

“As I walked out the door towards my freedom, I knew that if I did not leave all the hatred, anger and bitterness behind that I would still be in prison.” ~Nelson Mandela

Our emotions play a significant part in our attitude and how we view the world. Negative emotions can consume us, resulting in our own self-imprisionment, as Nelson Mandela so wisely understood. Holding onto those feelings is like holding a hot coal and expecting others to get burned.  Read more

Living In Gratitude: Stress Happens

Stress happens when we resist life’s events.

Let go.

Be at peace and appreciate life.

This is a spiritual practice.

Stress is a part of life. It’s a reaction to something that disrupts our mental or physical equilibrium, resulting in a ‘fight or flight’ reaction. In moderation, stress can keep us active, alert and excited but long-term, chronic stress can have a negative impact on our health.

You may not be able to eliminate stressors, but you can control how you react to them. Healthy stress management routines can help you manage stressors big and small. These might be meditation, exercise, deep breathing or any whatever method works best for you. Read more

Living In Gratitude: Ask Yourself…

Ask yourself this question: Will this matter a year from now? ~Richard Carlson

When you are having ‘one of those days’ where nothing goes your way and your frustration level is at it’s peak, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Will this matter a day, a week, a month or year from now?” Odds are, whatever challenge is causing your current stress or irritation is something that soon enough will be forgotten. It simply won’t matter in the grand adventure of your life. Read more

Living In Gratitude: Just For Today

I will let go of worry.

I will let go of anger.

I will do my work honestly.

I will give thanks for my many blessings.

I will be kind to every living thing.

~Reiki Precepts

Letting go can be a freeing process, especially when we release negative emotions. Giving thanks for our many blessings allows us to let go and boosts our happiness.  Read more

Forgive & Let Go

At one time or another, and probably more than once, we’ve all felt we were owed an apology that never came. And when that happens, it is all too easy to hold tight to the pain, letting resentment and anger build.  Our relationship with the person who failed to ask for forgiveness begins to deteriorate.  We say to ourselves, “Well, they didn’t say they were sorry, so why should I forgive them?  Ultimately, we make a choice to be mad at them.  This anger builds until eventually, what we once shared or liked about that person ceases to exist.

Has anyone else had this happen to them, or is it just me?

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