Living In Gratitude: Compliments Are Gifts

Compliments are gifts. Receive graciously and simply say, “Thank you.”

Everyone appreciates a compliment but many of us don’t know quite how to accept them gracefully.

Compliments can make us feel uncomfortable. We don’t want to appear as though we are ‘tooting our own horn’ by accepting a compliment yet at the same time, we want to enjoy it.

Below are a few tips to graciously accepting the gift of compliments.


The best response when someone compliments you is simply: Thank you.

If that doesn’t feel like enough, try to keep your response short and sincere.

“Thank you, my parents gave this to me and it’s always been one of my favorites,” or 
”Thank you, I really enjoyed presenting to your group,”
 or “Thanks so much, that means a lot to me.“

Accept All Compliment

When we deflect or turn down a compliment, we are basically insult the giver.

Giver: I love your outfit. It was the perfect thing to wear to this event.

Receiver: Oh, this old thing? I grabbed it out of the back of my closet.  I don’t really like it, but it was too late to find something better.

That response informed the person who complemented you that they have poor taste. Now they are wondering why they offered you a compliment to begin with.

What should you have said? Thank you.

Don’t Make Yourself Look Bad

Your manager told you that you did a fantastic job on a project. You don’t want to sound arrogant, so to downplay it,  you point out all the things you should have done better. “Thanks, but I wish we would have finished earlier.” Or “I didn’t do much. The team really made this project happen.” While it is important to give credit to the right people, don’t reject credit you’ve rightfully earned.

By pointing out your mistakes or giving full credit to others, your manager may decide you’re right.

Avoid Arrogance

Overconfidence comes across as rude. If someone tells you your project was the best, or your outfit is fantastic, don’t agree. Simply say. “Thank you”.

Was that Compliment Sincere?

There are times you may question the sincerity of the compliment. Was the person being sarcastic, snide, or superficial? What were they really trying to say? It doesn’t matter. It’s not your job to judge the giver’s intentions when you receive a compliment.

Just say, “Thank you”.

When someone presents it to you, accept the gift of a compliment graciously.

May your day be filled with gratitude and good things.

Excerpts from SmartTalk.

Living In Gratitude: What A Wonderful World

And I think to myself, what a wonderful world.

Have you ever stopped to consider what an amazing world we live in?

There are numerous things all around us that are awe-inspiring if we simply take a moment to look closely.

  • The beauty of dew drops that sparkle and reflect the morning sun.
  • The intensity and brilliance of colors, aromas, and sounds.
  • The incredible number and variety of living things.
  • The warmth of a hug.
  • The power of a smile.
  • The immensity of the oceans.

The list is endless.

What do you find wonderful in the world? Make a list in a notebook or gratitude journal.

May your day be filled with gratitude and good things.

Living In Gratitude: Express Gratitude

The expression of gratitude is a kind of meta-strategy for achieving happiness. ~ Sonja Lyubomirsky

Gratitude is many things to many people but it is so much more than simply saying ‘thank you’.

  • Gratitude is wonder.
  • It is appreciation.
  • It is looking on the bright side after a setback.
  • It is thanking the people who support you.  Read more

Living In Gratitude: A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and sings it back to you when you have forgotten the words.

One of the best things in life is having a true friend. Another is being a true friend. Having connections with different people who understand, support and appreciate you, make you laugh, let you cry and help you remember who you are is an amazing gift.

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Change Your Thoughts: Pre-Surgery Gratitude

It is in our hands to shift our thoughts, feelings, energy and therefore, our actions.

I recently had the opportunity to meet with a coaching client who was in the middle of a medical issue. After her surgery and when she was recovered, I asked her if she would be willing to write about her experience. Following is the reflection I received from her. Thank you, Kathleen.

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Living In Gratitude: Focus On The Gift

Focus on the gift of living and the gift of giving.


Every day is a gift.

Live it to the fullest.

Savor each moment. Read more

Living In Gratitude: The Gift Of Giving Thanks

I’ve discovered that ‘giving thanks’ is a sweet gift to myself and others. ~Carol Adamski

One of the most timeless and thoughtful gifts you can give someone is your gratitude. Not only does it make the recipient feel appreciated, but it makes us as the giver, feel wonderful as well.

Be lavish and heartfelt with your appreciation of others. Spread those genuine “thank you’s” around. Notice how those two little words hold so much power and meaning.  Read more

Living In Gratitude: Celebrate You!

You are a special recipe of strengths, talents, and qualities. Celebrate you! ~ Carol Adamski, Art of Appreciation Workshop

Each of us is unique. There really is no one else exactly like us. We all possess special attributes that should be applauded, especially by ourselves. It is possible to celebrate and appreciate ourselves while still remaining humble.   Read more

Living In Gratitude: Life Is About Creating Yourself

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. ~ George Bernard Shaw

Every day is a new opportunity. Each moment, we get to choose how we will act, what we will do, if we should explore, what our attitude will be, if we will be friendly or shy, adventurous or play it safe. Whatever we decide, take time to appreciate the fact that we have so many options, that we are able to create ~ or recreate ~ ourselves as we see fit. Go and create the most amazing you that you can be!  Read more

Living In Gratitude: Keeping Gratitude Higher Than Expectations

The days that I keep my gratitude higher than my expectation, those are really good days. ~Ray Wylie Hubbard


We’ve all had days that don’t live up to our expectations. Those days tend to be disappointing, don’t they? Yet, if we shift our focus toward gratitude instead of what we expect, we are never let down.

Expectations are created from our belief that something will happen. We will get that job promotion, our offer on the dream house will be accepted, our children will become doctors or lawyers…. These things may or may not happen and are frequently out of our control, especially when we have expectations of others. Read more