Wayne Dyer was a profound person whose wisdom about honoring ourselves and living in truth give us great insight into how to live life. Below are 13 life-changing lessons we can learn from this incredible man.
Cooperation is healthier than competition
When we constantly work on bettering ourselves rather than comparing and competing with others, our focus shifts from one of separation to one of inclusion and cooperation.
“If you’re always in a hurry, always trying to get ahead of the other guy, or someone else’s performance is what motivates you, then that person is in control of you.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Don’t try to change those you love
We should love people for who they are not what we want them to be. Love means not imposing our expectations, will and beliefs to mold others into someone else.
“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Ignorance is not bliss
When we allow our minds and hearts to open to possibilities, change, different ideas, beliefs and viewpoints, we tend to be happier. Rather than immediately saying no, try something new. Consider other’s perspectives. Do your best to understand even if you don’t agree.
“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” ~ Wayne Dyer
We are not victims
Putting our heads in the sand leads to avoiding conflict and taking responsibility for our actions. It allows others to control us as we play the victim when something negative happens. Being accountable and aware of our inner strengths and responding instead of reacting enables us to keep our power rather than hand it over to others.
“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Solitude is a good thing
When we like ourselves, we are comfortable being alone. We don’t need other people to make us feel whole, alive or important because we already feel this way. Liking who we are means we can enjoy time spent in solitude as much as time spent with those we love.
“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Rejection builds strength
Life will always entail rejection but trusting in ourselves and listening to our inner voice, to what we truly want and believe, will always steer us in the right direction. This will build strength, resilience and determination rather than bitterness.
“Be grateful to all those people who told you no. It’s because of them that you managed to do it all yourself.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Self worth cannot be verified by other people
When we live authentically and stop turning to others to validate our worth, that is when we are happiest. Rather than trying to please everyone else, work to please yourself.
“Self-worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value it is other-worth.” ~ Wayne Dyer
We attract what we are in life, not want we want
The Law of Attraction doesn’t work as many people think. It is not about what we want but instead, what we ARE. People who are negative tend to attract negative things. Kind, grateful, positive people have lives filled with abundance and beauty.
”If you’re obsessed with defeating the other guy and winning at all costs, then you’re guaranteed to attract the vibrational equivalent of this thinking into your life — even if you do yoga and stand on your head chanting mantras everyday.” ~ Wayne Dyer
There are no imposed limits in life
The only limits in life are those we place upon ourselves. This doesn’t mean there won’t be obstacles along the way but we can achieve anything we set out to do with enough hard work and perseverance.
“When you argue for your limitations, all you get are your limitations.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Heaven on Earth is a choice not a place
Our mindset can make life miserable or wonderful, it is all how we choose to see things.
“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.” ~ Wayne Dyer
All we need is already within us
We have within us right now everything we need to be happy and at peace. We don’t need to look outside ourselves for anything more.
“You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Personal growth is on-going
Bettering ourselves, learning and experiencing new things should continue throughout our lifetime. When we cease to improve, we’ve effectively stopped living.
“If you’re a finished product all tied up and put away, you’ve stopped growing.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Following our hearts leads to success
Trying to become someone we’re not or forcing ourselves to fit into anything that doesn’t fit our authentic selves leads to dissatisfaction. It’s only when we align ourselves and our lives with who we are, we create success and happiness.
“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.” ~ Wayne Dyer
May your day be filled with gratitude and good things
Article excerpts from Purpose Fairy.